My husband Matthew Shane Cameron was a kind of guy who “left easy” – without burdening those he was leaving with too much attachment. But even though you might think he had moved on, he never forgot the people whom he met. He had an amazing ability to remember people’s names and details from their lives.
At his final farewell, many of his old college friends showed up. They travelled hundreds of miles to say their goodbyes. He was known to them as ‘Tumbleweed” – and most knew him for his adventurous and always-on-the-go nature. He too loved his college circle of friends. He often spoke about so many of them – to me, to our kids and to the strangers we met around the country as we toured for 15 years.
But as I spoke to them at the funeral, I realized that they might not know the Matthew I knew. He was always interested in other people, and he spoke about himself very little.
I wondered how many of all those people who loved him really knew what he was doing out there – how amazing he was at producing tours after tours, managing many people and different personalities, building a venture that not only supported his family and a crew of musicians, but changed lives of thousands and thousands of people.
Apart from being a great producer, Matthew supported and encouraged me to write, to create, to sing, and to be courageous. (He’s done that for many people whom he worked with – from Christopher to our musicians, to his Stormlight Pictures partners Logen and Corey)
His diagnosis put him center stage. No one else became more important or needing support than him. He had to, maybe for the first time in his life, put himself first – focus on his healing, ways to stay strong, ways to deal with pain, ways to love himself and accept God’s love for him.
His close friends, college buddies and hundreds of strangers who poured out their love when he first got diagnosed – helped him with that. And my sons and I are eternally grateful for that.
In the end, Matthew, whose life’s joy was to serve others, who was the happiest when he could DO something for people and God (produce films, concerts, build houses, throw parties, lead trips, never miss Mass, pray Rosary, etc…) – knew so well that simply BEING Matthew Shane Cameron was enough to be loved.
And that’s the part he got to share with people – and he was so grateful to hear feedback from those who were moved by his transparency, his openness, his brokenness and his strength – founded in that Love.
Every time someone wrote to him how something he said inspired them to dig deeper, love more, be true to themselves, be free, he was truly happy…
That was the ‘why’ behind his work of helping people figure out their own ‘why’s’ – because it’s who we are (souls loved and created to love) that is important – and then from that place, we can do all things…